Originally Posted by palerider

I am here waiting!

no thankYOU

Originally Posted by Katz Eyez

Hey Miss Megs

I am sorry you have not been appreciated for all the various aspects you have carefully cultivated over the years.

Honey it's obvious that you have been more than willing to give in every department...........and the guys you have chosen to share, have entered in the relationship, simply because they do not have to do a damn thing.

You set a standard they merely recognized as not having to 'own' any status....... cause you do it for them!

You have to decree, make firm affirmations in what you desire in a partner........not just focus on what you can do for him! Otherwise you will continue to attract those who are willing to go for the ride.

You have qualities, high morals, integrity and many more interests going for you.

Please read what you have typed in the above statement and then see if the guys you have chosen in the past, match any of your qualities.........I think not!

So you desire a person who has similar interests, compatability, compassion, unconditioanl love, persistance, drive/motivation, caring, loving, devotion, honesty, integrity, morals, empathy, emotional intellect and of high calibre.

After all these qualities I sense in you, are far worthy than the guys you have been baby sitting.

My dear Miss Megs you have already exceeded beyond your free spirited age and there will come a day, that special person will only be too pleased to reciprocate, the unconditional love n care you so deserve!

You just have to believe you are worth having one, of similar qualities.


Katz

Thanks Katz and Alzhiemer youre both very right, Bless you both for the bum kicking I deserve lol Luck to you both in your endeavours Meggs

Originally Posted by Katz Eyez

Hi guys

Have any of you been treated to a great night out, where you have been chosen to be picked up and asked what restaurant you would love to dine at?

To have a woman care for you in such a way that you feel like you're number one and have every detail sorted out for the whole night and not have to take charge?

And if so, how so?

If not, why not?

Katz

Hi Katz, Had this happen to me once whilst serving in the military, the way it went down was more like a friend asking another friend if they wanted to "come with" rather than all the pressure and tention of making it a date, even though what we did would traditionally be called a date. Because it was so laid back it was a brillient day and night. Hope this helps.

Originally Posted by IRideFree

Hi Katz, Had this happen to me once whilst serving in the military, the way it went down was more like a friend asking another friend if they wanted to "come with" rather than all the pressure and tention of making it a date, even though what we did would traditionally be called a date. Because it was so laid back it was a brillient day and night. Hope this helps.

Hi IRideFree

Thanks for writing and letting us know your experience, do appreciate it!
It does fascinate me, that people generally feel it is the males prerogative to pay for an 'outing'. That guys feel 'awkward' should their lady spoil them now and again.
Pity those that have been fortunate to have their lady pay....have not elaborated on their experience, other than feeling Awkward!. Why is it so awkward to have your lady pay? Is this a traditional conception that has been drummed into our society that if a couple go on an outing, it is solely the males job to cover?
Perhaps even allowing a woman to pay half the outing is not as prevalent as thought!


Katz

Originally Posted by Katz Eyez

Hi IRideFree

Thanks for writing and letting us know your experience, do appreciate it!
It does fascinate me, that people generally feel it is the males prerogative to pay for an 'outing'. That guys feel 'awkward' should their lady spoil them now and again.
Pity those that have been fortunate to have their lady pay....have not elaborated on their experience, other than feeling Awkward!. Why is it so awkward to have your lady pay? Is this a traditional conception that has been drummed into our society that if a couple go on an outing, it is solely the males job to cover?
Perhaps even allowing a woman to pay half the outing is not as prevalent as thought!


Katz

i think you hit the nail on the head with tradition, as males & females of our generation it was drummed into us how to "Treat a lady", We pay for meals, Hold doors open etc; (More a hangover from the 50's era, when roles were defined) now days though the lines are blurring, it gets realy interesting when a person from one generation, dates a person from another generation, both have ideas that they have forged or been tought, and at times it can be uncomfortable for some when stepping outside their comfort zone. I have found over the years that comfortability is a drawback to social advances in the differences that the 2 sexes meet on a daily basis, not only in dating but also in other areas such as work, homelife, ambitions, careers etc. Those that choose to grow are usually rewarded with a miriad of new experiances, which only serves to enlighten themselves and opens them up to all kinds of new joys & Sorrows. Those that don't usually pick a time they were happiest with and remodel their lives to match that long lost whatever it was they enjoyed. If you get my drift? i personally don't have a problem with being treated to a night out as i know down the track situations for whatever reason will be reversed.

Originally Posted by IRideFree

i think you hit the nail on the head with tradition, as males & females of our generation it was drummed into us how to "Treat a lady", We pay for meals, Hold doors open etc; (More a hangover from the 50's era, when roles were defined) now days though the lines are blurring, it gets realy interesting when a person from one generation, dates a person from another generation, both have ideas that they have forged or been tought, and at times it can be uncomfortable for some when stepping outside their comfort zone. I have found over the years that comfortability is a drawback to social advances in the differences that the 2 sexes meet on a daily basis, not only in dating but also in other areas such as work, homelife, ambitions, careers etc. Those that choose to grow are usually rewarded with a miriad of new experiances, which only serves to enlighten themselves and opens them up to all kinds of new joys & Sorrows. Those that don't usually pick a time they were happiest with and remodel their lives to match that long lost whatever it was they enjoyed. If you get my drift? i personally don't have a problem with being treated to a night out as i know down the track situations for whatever reason will be reversed.

Hi IRideFree

So it seems tradition plays a huge roll and as you also mentioned, it depends on which generation and era one was raised.

I have emphasized your last sentence, as you have clearly got the message...... It's all about giving and when you do, there's bound to be a time someone will reciprocate!!


Katz