Hi Sexci
Great and valued question, one that still plays on many minds.
The pros and cons of signing a prenuptial has always plagued many of us.
So many become upset if asked to sign a prenuptial.....naturally, one questions if they are valued for whom they are and more importantly, whether they are trusted is paramount.
Whilst these are valued questions and can place doubt upon one another, one should consider the way a prenuptial has been implicated.
There are genuine people whom have worked extremely hard to build an empire of sorts and as we ALL know, (be it through first hand experience, or reading/watching the media) there are many whom are willing to walk away with as much as possible given the chance, should separation occur.
Has signing prenuptial come about so readily because of past experiences? I think that goes without saying...
Some couples who are relatively balanced and consider honesty, trust, respect and many other attributes, will happily enter a relationship without having to sign any form of prenuptial.
There are also those that have entered with good faith and sadly, have lost a great deal.
Is it worth asking your future partner to sign one?
All circumstances are different and if trust and valuing a person is the issue, then one should consider carefully, how one goes about issuing and asking for a prenuptial.
It is relative to how long the couple have been together that counts.
If you both started off together in a venture that grows with you, then having a signed agreement that states clearly you both get half of everything, is surely being responsible for one another.
However, if the case maybe that one has accumulated more income and assets over the years and THEN meets a person, then it is up to the individual as to whether a prenuptial is necessary.
In these cases, many have actively protected what they have accumulated BEFORE meeting their beloved. In doing so, they will have a prenuptial written in such a way, that ONLY, what has been accumulated DURING the period the couple were together, is to be halved.
Many believe that marriage or having any relations of sorts, should be based on trust and without it, it isn't worth entering.
Valid point of course, but also being responsible in delegating where and whom your assets are being left too, are also paramount.
COMMUNICATION is the key to understanding where one stands in a relationship. IF one feels it's necessary to have a prenuptial drawn and signed, then for Gods sake do it with:
Grace
Responsibility
Understanding
Honesty
Respect
Empathy
Sharing
Care
Discussion
Passion
Motivation
And above all, be unconditionally giving. (and I don't mean monetary wise)
Head swirling? Only if you let it be........
Katz
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