I have been going with this guy....for the past two years..

He has been email buddies with this girl he was .."Kind of, sort a dating but there was nothing physical. Just hung out together." She met another guy online three years ago. She sold her house and moves out to Arizona with a guy that is retired and wanted top pull up stakes. She went with him...

Three years later...she is coming back. All this time she has been emailing AND calling the guy I am seeing. And pouring out her heart and soul on the loss of the love she had for the guy she is leaving... I am not the jealous type. So I didn’t think anything about UNTIL NOW>>

He said they used to take walks in the park, go to the movies and hung out. He has been reminiscing lately about those times before I was around.

I asked if she wants to pick up where they left off. if he is willing let her "HANG OUT" again...he said she is his friend and if she needs a shoulder to cry on, she is on anti depressants and said she had fibromialgia.. ..he was willing to let her come into his life again... I told him she may want to use him as a stepping stone until she can find someone else...and said that was not going to happen. but it would be nice to see her again...

He recently lost his job and took another one that is opposite my hours. We go out when we can...

Now she is coming back and has NO JOB...and sounds like she does not want one...I see that she is going to cling on to him for support....

And we will be drifting apart .....

....and your point is ???

Originally Posted by Rocket-3

....and your point is ???

What are you talking about?I actually don't understand.

Originally Posted by victoria

I have been going with this guy....for the past two years..

He has been email buddies with this girl he was .."Kind of, sort a dating but there was nothing physical. Just hung out together." She met another guy online three years ago. She sold her house and moves out to Arizona with a guy that is retired and wanted top pull up stakes. She went with him...

Three years later...she is coming back. All this time she has been emailing AND calling the guy I am seeing. And pouring out her heart and soul on the loss of the love she had for the guy she is leaving... I am not the jealous type. So I didn’t think anything about UNTIL NOW>>

He said they used to take walks in the park, go to the movies and hung out. He has been reminiscing lately about those times before I was around.

I asked if she wants to pick up where they left off. if he is willing let her "HANG OUT" again...he said she is his friend and if she needs a shoulder to cry on, she is on anti depressants and said she had fibromialgia.. ..he was willing to let her come into his life again... I told him she may want to use him as a stepping stone until she can find someone else...and said that was not going to happen. but it would be nice to see her again...

He recently lost his job and took another one that is opposite my hours. We go out when we can...

Now she is coming back and has NO JOB...and sounds like she does not want one...I see that she is going to cling on to him for support....

And we will be drifting apart .....

Ok i see your point, you are jealous, you must get over it. If you cant handle him having female mates, you have no other choice but to leave him. If she does what you think she might do, you just say "told you so". But overall, if you dont like her, leave him. There is no trust in your relationship, he might trust you but i know for a fact that you dont trust him with this mate of his. You really must get over the fact that males do have female mates, just put yourself into his shoes if you had a male mate doing the same thing.

leave him before he leaves u

Originally Posted by cookie

leave him before he leaves u

YEP....BANG ON.....GET OUT NOW !!!!!

yes, i agree with chiv..sounds like he has issues and so does she..better get out before u get all wraped up in that and get sucked into their issues.

Doesn't anyone try in a relationship these days?!! I'm baffled by the number of people who cut and run and dont try to sort things out with their partners. Relationships are hard work, it doesn't come easily all the time. You have to work at it. If you really do love someone and you care deeply for them you dont just piss off, I'm sorry but I just think thats ridiculous.

Look the guy is reminiscing and the chick is feeling like she wants him back. Victoria you are feeling a little insecure but I think Hartbreaker is being rather harsh. It's ok to feel like he's slipping away but don't give up!

Tell him to go see her, see how he feels then. If you love him let him see. Tell him you love him and you want him to stay with you but he really does need to move past the old times with this chick and the only way is for him to see her. He should know in that first visit if its just fantasy or something more, I truly believe this about us all if we listen to our inner voices. Anyway, it shows strength of character for you to allow this. I don't mean let yourself be walked all over, you need to make it clear that he has to be honest with you, if he believes there is something there with this other chick he needs to let you know and hopefully you can part as friends but if he goes and there isnt he needs to forget her.

Yes men have female friends and females have male friends but I'm sorry a friendship with someone who still pines for you is just stupidity. It's a setup for disaster because the chick who wants him will just try to make him go with her even if it's not what he wants.

Let them meet once. If he wants her let him go, if he wants you he has to let her go until she is not craving him. Pure and simple.

Just my two cents.

Yeah I would say you have nothing to worry about. If you think a woman with depression and a debilitating disease is more attractive than you, you obviously have self esteem issues! Don't jump before you have even struck a rock. From what you have said they were just good mates before. I am good mates with lots of women and it does not affect my relationships, it actually helps them coz I can consult them about that most incomprehensible of things - the female mind!

Originally Posted by victoria

I have been going with this guy....for the past two years..

He has been email buddies with this girl he was .."Kind of, sort a dating but there was nothing physical. Just hung out together." She met another guy online three years ago. She sold her house and moves out to Arizona with a guy that is retired and wanted top pull up stakes. She went with him...

Three years later...she is coming back. All this time she has been emailing AND calling the guy I am seeing. And pouring out her heart and soul on the loss of the love she had for the guy she is leaving... I am not the jealous type. So I didn’t think anything about UNTIL NOW>>

He said they used to take walks in the park, go to the movies and hung out. He has been reminiscing lately about those times before I was around.

I asked if she wants to pick up where they left off. if he is willing let her "HANG OUT" again...he said she is his friend and if she needs a shoulder to cry on, she is on anti depressants and said she had fibromialgia.. ..he was willing to let her come into his life again... I told him she may want to use him as a stepping stone until she can find someone else...and said that was not going to happen. but it would be nice to see her again...

He recently lost his job and took another one that is opposite my hours. We go out when we can...

Now she is coming back and has NO JOB...and sounds like she does not want one...I see that she is going to cling on to him for support....

And we will be drifting apart .....

UNLESS YOU WANT TO DROWN IN THE QUICKSAND WITH BOTH OF THEM...RUN LIKE HELL....YOU'LL BE GLAD YOU DID.