My whole life I have had mostly male friends. I have been married to my husband for almost 4 years, and have had NO friends in that time. He is currently out of the country living with his mother who has diabetes and is near death. I am terribly lonely and my days are consumed with caring for our 3 year old twins.

The only time I am enjoying myself is at the local butcher's. There is a very nice man who works there who is maybe 15 years older than me. He is always very sweet to my children and we are sociable. He knows what is going on with my husband and the other day he said that if I am ever lonely or bored I can call him. Well I would really like to. I would love to have a friend again.

I am not trying to replace my husband, I love him dearly! But I am dying to actually talk to an adult for more than 5 minutes. Would it be wrong to pursue this friendship? Would it be wrong to go out and have fun with him (i.e. go to the park or movies)?

Help! Thanks.

I dont think theres anything wrong with that at all. Everyone needs friends. But as long as you keep it as friends I dont think there should be a problem. Just because your married it dosnt mean you cant have friends, male or female. He sounds decent. But in the end it is up to you.

Originally Posted by LuckyOne

I dont think theres anything wrong with that at all. Everyone needs friends. But as long as you keep it as friends I dont think there should be a problem. Just because your married it dosnt mean you cant have friends, male or female. He sounds decent. But in the end it is up to you.

I agree to "Lucky"here,there's nothing wrong if you want a little fun in your life and you can make friends(male or female) and hang out with them,your husband should never mind it.If he do he is not a good husband and have no respect of your feelings.As a married you can do anything that's you like.

Your playing with fire girl. Don't cry when it burns.

"he said that if I am ever lonely or bored I can call him"

(Manspeak: means he thinks there's a chance of a root here) Note he didn't invite you to tea with his wife and family

"I am terribly lonely and my days are consumed with caring for our 3 year old twins"

That's what a mums job is isn't it?? What the problem with joining a mums group or a local church group, getting a dog and taking him for walks, playing in the park with ya kids. You already know what the outcome will be otherwise you wouldn't be hear trying to gain permission for your actions!! And why can't you relate to Females why must you only have male friends what's wrong with ya?? Your old man is about to lose his mum and you are whining because your bored and lonely, Great support you are girl

Originally Posted by Old school

"he said that if I am ever lonely or bored I can call him" (Manspeak: means he thinks there's a chance of a root here) Note he didn't invite you to tea with his wife and family

"I am terribly lonely and my days are consumed with caring for our 3 year old twins" that's what a mums job is isn't it?? What the problem with joining a mums group or a local church group, getting a dog and taking him for walks, playing in the park with ya kids. You already know what the outcome will be otherwise you wouldn't be hear trying to gain permission for your actions!!

And why can't you relate to Females why must you only have male friends what's wrong with ya??

Your old man is about to lose his mum and you are whining because your bored and lonely, Great support you are girl

Jez, look who is not getting any!!! lol Sounds like you need a root mate

Originally Posted by thinker

Jez, look who is not getting any!!! lol Sounds like you need a root mate

Presumptuous on your part and are you offering??

Now exactly what relevance to the thread did your response have and how was it meant to be constructive??

I tend to agree with Interested?

It depends what you expect from a friendship with this man. Are you looking to spice up your life? It's great having male friends, but as long as that is what they are. If it's lust and your married, don't go there unless your prepared for the consequences!!

Do you have female friends? It is possible to have fun with your female friends as well, going out etc. Making friends is all about meeting lots of people, both male and female, some will remain friends forever and some will move on.

Sounds like you need to have some balance in your life as far as friendships go. Depends what the whole story is. Sorry if this sounds a bit harsh!

Originally Posted by Julz41

I tend to agree with Interested?

It depends what you expect from a friendship with this man. Are you looking to spice up your life? It's great having male friends, but as long as that is what they are. If it's lust and your married, don't go there unless your prepared for the consequences!!

Do you have female friends? It is possible to have fun with your female friends as well, going out etc. Making friends is all about meeting lots of people, both male and female, some will remain friends forever and some will move on.

Sounds like you need to have some balance in your life as far as friendships go. Depends what the whole story is. Sorry if this sounds a bit harsh!

Well said Julz

Originally Posted by Old school

Well said Julz

Why thank you Old School Just saying it how I see it.