anyone have the same problem??????? i get lots of interest from men but almost straight away the conversation turns to sex...do they not believe in getting to know someone first?????????what is it with married men looking for a bit on the side do they really think they will get it or is everybodys values gone in this day and age????????

Originally Posted by miss_montana

anyone have the same problem??????? i get lots of interest from men but almost straight away the conversation turns to sex...do they not believe in getting to know someone first?????????what is it with married men looking for a bit on the side do they really think they will get it or is everybodys values gone in this day and age????????

Hi miss
The decent ones are still out there - they are just a bit harder to find ;-)

Most single blokes are out for fun these days and a lot I believe are out for as many ummm sexual experiences as they can get BUT there are a lot of genuine single guys that either dont socialise much , work alot , or when they do socialise just havent met the type of girl best suited to them - but they are out there !

I have had the same problem as you over and over so I refuse to accept instant chats now , I believe in getting to know someone and I will take as long as I think necessary to do so via emails b4 feeling comfortable enough to move to another level , be that phone calls or meeting and if the guy is right for me then he will already be like that himself ;-)
I dont have any criteria for looks for a man as I believe even the most gorgeous guy can be a total asshole but so too can the not so attractive ones so it makes no difference where looks are concerned for me.
I rule out part time dads too , sounds awful but in my experiences they have a lot more time on there hands than the full time dads and are either out for a lot of fun in between seeing there kids, or want that nice new gf to piss the ex off when the kids are dropped off, and they never seem to really comprehend gf's that have kids fulltime and an awful lot of them have hangups about money or childsupport or exes in general so it is a heck of a lot easier to stear clear. And its got nothing to do with wanting money as youll find most fulltime dads are propably a lot worse off financially than part time dads but I just dont want to constantly hear about child support issues or money or the ex etc and if they mention it in there profile or in emails to you then imagine what they are like in real life ?

lol so theres my 2cents and a bit but do believe me the genuine ones are out there , just keep sifting thru and he will get to u ;-)

Originally Posted by miss_montana

anyone have the same problem??????? i get lots of interest from men but almost straight away the conversation turns to sex...do they not believe in getting to know someone first?????????what is it with married men looking for a bit on the side do they really think they will get it or is everybodys values gone in this day and age????????

to reply to your question. If your interested in married men, than yes. They are not looking for a wife. Their looking to get laid.... If you want someone to be interested in you, and learn to know you, than find someone that single.

If you find any, ship them over to the Australian forum!

I understand your frustration in finding your mate but when you all say there are no decent men it's like an insult to a lot of us, we might not be the man for you but that doesn't makes us bad guys. I have been here for a while now and there are a lot of woman I have talk to or sent email without a simple thanks but no thanks reply but that doesn't mean your are not decent woman.

Originally Posted by Alzeimer

I understand your frustration in finding your mate but when you all say there are no decent men it's like an insult to a lot of us, we might not be the man for you but that doesn't makes us bad guys. I have been here for a while now and there are a lot of woman I have talk to or sent email without a simple thanks but no thanks reply but that doesn't mean your are not decent woman.

Yeah but your in the wrong country Alzeimer - you need to move to Australia ;-)

Originally Posted by realistic

Yeah but your in the wrong country Alzeimer - you need to move to Australia ;-)

Your country would never be the same after the Alzeimer effect but it would be nice just to have a chance to meet you.

No hard feeling to anyone all countries have their load of decent and not so decent people.

There are decent men and genuine as well but girls are looking for casual fun and they would always say that (((someone who makes me laugh))) what on earth does that mean????? Number 2,they never give the chance to have a conversation so they can get to know them.Let me speak about me,I ve been looking for a genuine girl and I have never found her at all and I have came to the conclusion that the Irish girls are difficult to deal with them may be because I am from different cultural backround.

thanx a mill for the that realistic u really helped alot with advice suppose just been unlucky so far but will keep looking and hopefully i could be writing a totally different thread...lol....thanx and good luck in finding what youre looking for...ruth.......

Where are all the decent women? A lot of the women in these chat rooms seem to have an attitude problem. They want the attention from men, but when they are approached via messages, etc, the just shut you out. I always hear women asking where are all the good men....we are here, believe it or not, but when we get treated badly we tend to disappear...retreat from hard, cold females who seem to just want their egos massaged.

I never bring up the sex topic unless a women does first. I'm here to genuinely meet someone for a serious relationship so I therefore treat the women I do chat with, or send messages to, with respect and try to be as courteous ass possible. It seems respect is not appreciated much these days.

Anyway, I'll try it for a bit longer before I totally give up.