Originally Posted by Cutebutbossy

I give love everyday of my life Poochi, I have children, for me to give my love freely to a man now is very very different.
It was over 5 years ago when I gave my all to a partner and his children as well as my own (my Youngest with cancer) but he walked out when the going got tough without so much as a goodbye, he just packed everything into the car (OUR CAR) and drove away leaving myself and the 3 kids stranded in Melbourne at the hospital. He took my car, my trust in males and my spirit when he left. Naturally I don't, wont and can't bring myself to trust anyone so easily anymore, If you want my trust now you have to earn it and that is not an easy thing to do. I've learnt to hide my true feelings around the opposite sex now because I don't want myself or my children hurt again, if that means I will never find someone to love and share life with in the future then I can reserve myself to that fact. I will never let any male Hurt me or my children again EVER!

Hi Ms. Cutebutbossy..I couldnt help myself..I was touched by what you shared. I also just want to share my thoughts about what you said..

We may admit it or not, there a feeling deep down us that keeps us holding on and believes that someone, somewhere out there is meant for us. This is a challenge for us even a struggle to hold on to that possibility in the future. But all we can do is to have that optimism that we can actually find the right person for us.

I totally understand how you feel that you find it hard to trust another man again especially what you have gone through with your kids. Trust is in fact hard to maintain in a relationship and for me it is the foundation of a lasting relationship so with respect.

Being careful with who you trust and wish to share your life and heart with can be very tricky business. Some people may believe the world is full of selfish people, but it is also filled with unselfish people who believe that "sharing is caring."

You may feel like you will never be able to love again and definitely never want to trust anyone. Just know that “the sun does come out again after every storm”. Someone can walk into your life just as fast as that someone who hurt you walked out of your life and change all of your pessimistic perceptions on love into optimistic opinions. Don't be mad at the person who previously hurt you: instead, be thankful, for now you know what real, true, happy love feels and looks like.

Don't give up. Let it find you, and when it does, trust yourself. If it feels right, it is. Anything is truly possible if you believe in it and yourself. Good luck and God Bless!

Originally Posted by sophisticatedone

Hi Ms. Cutebutbossy..I couldnt help myself..I was touched by what you shared. I also just want to share my thoughts about what you said..

We may admit it or not, there a feeling deep down us that keeps us holding on and believes that someone, somewhere out there is meant for us. This is a challenge for us even a struggle to hold on to that possibility in the future. But all we can do is to have that optimism that we can actually find the right person for us.

I totally understand how you feel that you find it hard to trust another man again especially what you have gone through with your kids. Trust is in fact hard to maintain in a relationship and for me it is the foundation of a lasting relationship so with respect.

Being careful with who you trust and wish to share your life and heart with can be very tricky business. Some people may believe the world is full of selfish people, but it is also filled with unselfish people who believe that "sharing is caring."

You may feel like you will never be able to love again and definitely never want to trust anyone. Just know that “the sun does come out again after every storm”. Someone can walk into your life just as fast as that someone who hurt you walked out of your life and change all of your pessimistic perceptions on love into optimistic opinions. Don't be mad at the person who previously hurt you: instead, be thankful, for now you know what real, true, happy love feels and looks like.

Don't give up. Let it find you, and when it does, trust yourself. If it feels right, it is. Anything is truly possible if you believe in it and yourself. Good luck and God Bless!

It wasn't just this one incident that has made me distrust so much, I had another partner just over 12 months after the one mentioned above took off and we were seeing each other for 2 years, I became suspicious of a lot of things he told me because they didn't add up and finally found out the truth, He was an interstate truck driver and U can guess what he was doing. This pathetic excuse for a man asked me to marry him, had no house and expected me to let him live with me and my kids. He was found out not long into the 2nd year of the relationship and was given the opportunity to tell the truth on more that one occasion, he still kept lying even when the proof was thrown at him. He did nothing but lie to me for almost 2 years and when one of his other lady friends delivered a caravan to my house and rang me the same night he was told to F**K off and never come back, No contact at all phone, email or otherwise.
When you cop 2 losers one after the other It certainly destroys any kind of trust you may have had left in the human race. Females do things like this too not just males.

Thank you poochi and sophisticated for you thoughts they are very much appreciated ( I had tears rolling down my face when I typed my reply because I will never forget the look on my sons face when I had to tell him in physiotherapy that My partner was not coming to pick us up and take us home and that we didn't have a car anymore( He couldn't walk or talk at that time after his stroke)

When I find someone who can be honest with me and my children I know I will learn to trust again and give my love and affection to them just as I do for my children.

Originally Posted by Cutebutbossy

It wasn't just this one incident that has made me distrust so much, I had another partner just over 12 months after the one mentioned above took off and we were seeing each other for 2 years, I became suspicious of a lot of things he told me because they didn't add up and finally found out the truth, He was an interstate truck driver and U can guess what he was doing. This pathetic excuse for a man asked me to marry him, had no house and expected me to let him live with me and my kids. He was found out not long into the 2nd year of the relationship and was given the opportunity to tell the truth on more that one occasion, he still kept lying even when the proof was thrown at him. He did nothing but lie to me for almost 2 years and when one of his other lady friends delivered a caravan to my house and rang me the same night he was told to F**K off and never come back, No contact at all phone, email or otherwise.
When you cop 2 losers one after the other It certainly destroys any kind of trust you may have had left in the human race. Females do things like this too not just males.

Thank you poochi and sophisticated for you thoughts they are very much appreciated ( I had tears rolling down my face when I typed my reply because I will never forget the look on my sons face when I had to tell him in physiotherapy that My partner was not coming to pick us up and take us home and that we didn't have a car anymore( He couldn't walk or talk at that time after his stroke)

When I find someone who can be honest with me and my children I know I will learn to trust again and give my love and affection to them just as I do for my children.

You are a wonderful and strong lady...keep your charm up...your family needs it and it is the need of the time. You have a lot of happiness to share with your near ones which all of you deserve...so take life only as it comes...don't bother much please...best regards

The main sign for me that I'm in love is the fact that I am willing to give my life for her without even thinking about it.

I can only give my love to someone I cannot control what the other does I can only hope she loves me.

Originally Posted by Alzeimer

The main sign for me that I'm in love is the fact that I am willing to give my life for her without even thinking about it.

I can only give my love to someone I cannot control what the other does I can only hope she loves me.

This is what most of the lovers do man...it's the trust factor. In the situation mentioned above...it's this factor that has been shaked to extremes. You surely can give your life away without even thinking about it...but what if your soul gets to see that instead of crying over your body...she moves into someone elses arms and does not give a damn on what happened to you.

My friend there are only a lucky few who actually get true love...feel lucky if you have one...do not lie, keep secrets or over expect...life shall be cool.

Nobody controls anybody....but everybody beholds somebody....down there...in the heart.

Keep it clean...

Originally Posted by Poochi

This is what most of the lovers do man...it's the trust factor. In the situation mentioned above...it's this factor that has been shaked to extremes. You surely can give your life away without even thinking about it...but what if your soul gets to see that instead of crying over your body...she moves into someone elses arms and does not give a damn on what happened to you.

My friend there are only a lucky few who actually get true love...feel lucky if you have one...do not lie, keep secrets or over expect...life shall be cool.

Nobody controls anybody....but everybody beholds somebody....down there...in the heart.

Keep it clean...

First of all I'm dead so who cares what she does after and second it doesn't matter what she does it's me that would have been true to my feelings and thats all i can control alive or dead.

Originally Posted by Alzeimer

The main sign for me that I'm in love is the fact that I am willing to give my life for her without even thinking about it.

I can only give my love to someone I cannot control what the other does I can only hope she loves me.

Alz,

what if you do think about and still give up your life for her? Is that not a more powerful statement of love?

Originally Posted by Alzeimer

The main sign for me that I'm in love is the fact that I am willing to give my life for her without even thinking about it.

I can only give my love to someone I cannot control what the other does I can only hope she loves me.

For me, it is simply a selfless and unconditional love given to a person!

I think we are all talking the same thing and have reached the conclusion...using different words to explain the situation...won't change what is actually desired. Remaining truthful

Originally Posted by Poochi

I think we are all talking the same thing and have reached the conclusion...using different words to explain the situation...won't change what is actually desired. Remaining truthful

well different strokes for different folks...our opinions are more or less dependent on the experiences that we encounter as we journey through our lives.