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Human being are mostly emotional

10-17-2006   #1
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Consider that most of our decisions are motivated by emotions:
1) The woman/man we choose
2) The cloth we buy and wear
3) The car we drive
4) The job we got
5) And so on…

I invite you to challenge that fact. Please provide a decision you took lately or a decision you’re about to take and we’ll analyze it together.

Please share your thoughts

Dany

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10-17-2006   #2
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The cloth we buy and wear?.......I don't get emotional about clothes - except when they don't fit!

The car we drive?.......I don't get emotional about cars - except when they break down!

The job we got?........I don't get emotional about jobs - except when I'm fired!

The woman/man we choose?.......if a woman told me she loved me then I probably would get emotional, I'll concede that.

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10-18-2006   #3
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Thank you Rocket-3 .

But something in that cloth atracted you, the textile, the color, the shape. When you feel atracted by something we call that emotion.
Emotions are so powerful that we have difficulty trying to detect them or get an explanation.

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10-18-2006   #4
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loveforever

I would say that the thing that attracted me to that cloth was preference and not emotion.

emotions are deep feelings that a person has when confronted with certain situations, it's easy to confuse emotions with everyday responses to a situation.

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10-26-2006   #5
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And preference is dictated by emotions not logic.

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10-26-2006   #6
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preference is dictated by, errrrrr - preference!

nothing to do with emotion my friend.........

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11-04-2006   #7
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Well, according to Myers and Briggs, we fall into two broad categories - those of us who tend to make decisions based on "feelings" and those who tend to base their decisions on "thinking" - logical empirical data. No one is truly polarised so that all decisions are based on one or other but we run a spectrum from those who show a "slight preference" to those who show a "marked preference". Someone with a slight preference for feeling-based decisions will only make slightly more decisions based on how they feel and someone with a marked preference for thinking-based decisions will make most of their decisions based on empirical data. It's all relative so someone with a marked preference for thinking will view a person with only a slight preference as "overly emotional".

I am, of course, referring to part of the MBTI - Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. I tested out as ENFP - Extrovert, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving - which is more common in women than men. Preferences in order: marked, marked, moderate, marked. In my job I can easily switch to thinking-based empirical decisions as feelings are not relevant to my work but in my personal life I tend towards feeling-based decisions more often than not.

The MBTI fits very nicely in a lot of ways but there are other ranges it does not explore, such as style of humour, how sociable you are, sexual matters etc. The Extrovert/Introvert range, for example is the Jungian definition - whether you externalise or internalise your thought processes ("bounce ideas off people" or "mull things over quietly") - not the lay-person's definitions of "party animal" and "wallflower". Introverts and extroverts are just as likely to be "party animals" ( I know some introverts who love noisy parties and I'm an extrovert that prefers a few quiet drinks with only a handful of friends.)

But I digress (just bouncing ideas off y'all ).

My decisions are mostly governed by what I "like", what "feels right" but i know people who will weigh up the pros and cons of everything. As I'm only moderately tending to "feeling" there are some decisions that it "feels right" that I should weigh my options and compare data and come to a decision based on empirical data.

Often, it's a mix like my choice of motor bike: I compared various bikes empirically and chose one that fit a lot of criteria but some of those criteria - like it having to be a Road-Trail bike rather than a sports bike, tourer or cruiser - were based on my feelings... what I "would like" and "enjoy more".

Other people I know would make the entire decision of buying a car based on how much it suits tangible criteria - size (to fit family), price, fuel economy, sufficient power to cope with the uses to which it will be put etc and considerations like make, colour etc are largely irrelevant (unless they want a colour that is more visible and therefore "safer").

Rocket comes across as more a T (thinking) type and possibly an S ("Sensate", perception based on the 4 senses, rather than an "N" type - "Intuitive", "gut-feeling" based perception), going by his posts on this matter - certainly seems closer to the S and T ends of the spectra than my "marked" and ""moderate" preferences for N and F. As I said, it's relative.

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11-12-2006   #8
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I am not totally ruled by my emotions. I use my mind to think, and make decisions.

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11-18-2006   #9
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OK. I'll play.

1) The woman/man we choose...... Have messed up there a few times, so probably emotional wins.

2) The cloth we buy and wear......... Practical. For climate, culture, occasion and do I want to iron or not. Emotional would have to mean, oh I am feeling bright and sunny, I will wear yellow. Or I am feeling like sh** so I will wear brown. I don't do that. I wear what is suitable for the occasion.

3) The car we drive ........ Practical. Selected for the requirement at the time. If emotional or preferential my choice would be entirely unpractical for where I live. A Cobra. Or anything with excessive V8 only grunt and sporty style.

4) The job we got....... Total Choice. Self employed so pick who I want to work with and the worth of the project. Practical and logical. I cannot do some of things I really feel totally passionate (emotional) about as it is simply not going to work.

So how did I go? White coat and medication time?

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11-27-2006   #10
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Hey Dany

Are you a shrink? OMG

My responses would be similar to Wantok

Men I choose purely on what makes me happy - ie must be non smoker, intelligent with good teeth a must!, good sense of humour & baggage taken care of - thats basically it - ooooooh and must be attracted to them ie there must be a spark if you know what I mean.

Cloth - again comfort based - natural fabrics as they breathe - with an emphasis on easy laundering - but still like to lash out on silk & linen which as many women will know is a pain to wash and iron! Colour choice monochrome - not in fashion right now however thats me - classic. Everything is based on how much money I have at the time and whether I can afford that designer outfit for a special occasion!

Chose my car - for safety and price and petrol efficiency - but didnt choose the colour - as the only second hand one on the market at the time - demo model! and its red - ahhhhh no bad decision - I speed too much in it!

My job - ahhhhhh theres another dumb decision based on a whim - thought I would like to work with kids again!! Forgot about the x and y generation parenting though and lack of discipline! A choice definitely - however at my age - probably locked in!

So how did I do?

cheers Isolde






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Consider that most of our decisions are motivated by emotions:
1) The woman/man we choose
2) The cloth we buy and wear
3) The car we drive
4) The job we got
5) And so on…

I invite you to challenge that fact. Please provide a decision you took lately or a decision you’re about to take and we’ll analyze it together.

Please share your thoughts

Dany

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