Ahhhhhh am finding it hard to meet a male in this rural area that doesnt have an issues ie that is actually happy with his life! - e.g depressed, financial problems, family problems etc -dont get me wrong I am a sensitive person but there is only so much I can tolerate - will topple over soon from all the issues! There must be someone out there that is reasonably happy and doesnt have gripes!

I'm beginning to think that the unattached men around where I live are all single for a really good reason- which has to do with red necks, unemployment, depression and general misogyny.
I've started to classify them. There are the dreamers who, at 40 or more, are after a Barbie look-alike who wants to be a mother to their children or themselves. There's the ones who can't stand a woman with a mind - you'd be terrifying to them because you're better qualified than they are. Younger ones-late 30s for example- are often looking for a last minute breeder, before it's too late. There's the "I've been hurt and am not going to be interested unless you fit the profile" sort. So you think they're after somebody genuine and real, and that appearance is the last thing on the list, but the profile begins something like, "Beautiful, thin, sexy...." And there's the sleazy "After kinky sex" ones who poorly mask their intentions with innuendo and double entendres.
My advice, keep trying. And a hint, some sites have dating, relationship and intimate (read sex) categories. If you're on one of those, cross check profiles between the first two and the last one. They'll use different nicknames, but they're often there. It's really interesting how many guys wanting a "real relationship" are also into threesomes and swinging. Look for one who is only in one of the first two categories, and you might get lucky.

So, is it possible to find a good one? Hmmm. I'll let you know. I'm still trying and may be onto a good thing. He mentioned something about a brother.....

ahhhhhhh we are like minded or had similar experiences!! Perhaps it is because I am from a different state do you think and not able to converse on an equal level or even find common ground? Quite often alot comes out after the third or fourth night out. And then there is the inevitable guys around the grog and women in a corner with the children!! Surely its got to get better? Wish you luck with the brother hehe

Dear Isolde,
You've got to wonder when nothing happens and then....
I went out with this muso awhile back, and it was great, then the bugger didn't ring, email, etc, so I thought, okay, so that was it. He's obviously not interested. And I HAD been. So I was about to wipe my profile out of frustration, when I get an email from the nicest, YOUNGER guy. Intelligent, environmentally minded (I teach this, he's studying it, and no, he isn't one of my pupils, thank God), too much in common to list. So we're emailing each other daily, when the muso comes back into my life. I never have had two guys interested in me at once IN MY LIFE, even when I was young and pretty. Now I'm old and wrinkly, I get two. So it does happen. Only problem is that they are going to both be in the same place - the muso is playing at a festival that the other guy has invited me to.
I think perhaps that you may be looking in the wrong place. I met both of these on the same site.

and which site was that? Two timing hey - well not really but interesting they are both hanging around! How will you play this one?

I consider myself to be normal , yet i have loads of issues as do 95% of women , Are you looking for Mr perfect? if you are you may well find yourself on the wrong planet , We as humans have had issues since the beginning of time , since eve told adam to steal and eat the apple despite being told not to Adam did it why ? Same reason I agree with my wife on everything ? It makes life easier and I should know i'm on my third marriage and its slowly going down hill because of individual issues. Like 1: / "wanting me to spend more time with her at night" translated means " come and be bored watching me watch 20 hours of soaps and stuff on tv) 2: / "if you want something washed and ironed do it yourself " translated ( I do it all myself anyway and have done longer than I have been married ) everyone has issues THATS NORMAL . Anyone who begs to differ are entitled to thier own opinion , hey free speech and all that. I'm not putting women down she hates things about me :- like " why wont you curse and swear back at me?" " why don't you stop me punching you " and the old favourite when she is drunk and mad " get out of MY HOUSE" . Why do I put up with it (love? thats well gone) I have 2 kids to worry about, they need to realise that this behaviour is not NORMAL ! . Why did I join dating sites like this ? Simple Im looking for a new life too and I aint gonna give up till I'm dead to find some nice NORMAL (with issues or not) Women to treat me not just equally , but humanely. I'm not a cheater nor looking for one - nighters - a friend will do to start with or at least someone to chat with who feels the same about life

Dear Isolde,
I'm not sure about any of it. The younger guy and I are getting on really well, but the fatalist in me is waiting for that fatal flaw. You know, the moment when Mr TooGoodTo BeTrue opens his mouth and says something rude or stupid or sleazy. But I have a feeling he won't. We've agreed to meet, so I could find out then that he looks young enough to be my son, or is (even worse) hopelessly handsome. I'll let you know how it goes. Any luck lately? I was with Lavalife when I met both guys. Cathy

I can't understand this post. I live way out in the mulga. In the never never if you like but lifes more than fine here.

Ozzie

Hi Ozzie

Nice to see a positive man about - even though in his more senior years - perhaps this is the problem with the younger men? Still lumped with the exwife, alimony, children from ex's etc etc. Must admit to feeling slightly sorry for the rural male as I think they take on more than they need to in some respects. Cant control the weather can you ? Seem to be mostly farmers etc lol

Originally Posted by Isolde

Ahhhhhh am finding it hard to meet a male in this rural area that doesnt have an issues ie that is actually happy with his life! - e.g depressed, financial problems, family problems etc -dont get me wrong I am a sensitive person but there is only so much I can tolerate - will topple over soon from all the issues! There must be someone out there that is reasonably happy and doesnt have gripes!

and I have the same problems with women and you seem to be having with men. I am not into drama and emotional baggage. That is why I joined this site. I figure it can't be any worse than dating the women in this area.