Hi Everyone

I just wanted to ask a silly question and yes i want a honest answer. Why is it that when you respond to someone and they tell you to add them to your email address and they want to talk only online.I know it is confusing but i would like to know why, when i answer or respond to a profile, i get told to put their email address in my book and talk online. I always respond saying i would prefer 1 on 1 conversation or further emails as i don't chat online nor do i have an interest in doing so. I work in front of a pc all day at work and i would really like to talk to another human and hear a voice not chat online.There are some really lovely guys i have sent emails to and they just about all say the same - add my email and i am online always to chat. What has happened to old fashion conversation.They also never reply again when i tell them i have no interest in online chatting .I must be behind the times but i have lived with 1 guy for 12 months and all he did was sit in front of the pc and i don't want to go through that again ever.Maybe i am old fashioned or something is wrong with me.Thank you for responses and i wish you a very Happy and prosperous 2008.

Rainbow Angel

aint a silly Q? but who knows rainbow!1 part of the globes famous
4 it,i guess they aint in2 old fashioned convo huh!happy 08 2 u

Rainbow, a few assumptions or clarifications and my best guess at some answers for you...

When you say 1 on 1, are you talking about the 1 on 1 instant messaging (IM) service on here or do you mean face to face or phone (voice) conversations?

From the latter part of your post, I guess you mean phone or face to face, so I'll start with that.

A couple of reasons why people may not want to talk face to face or on the phone (some fair, some not):

1. They are not who they say they are (gender, age, ethnicity, country etc) and you will find out if you meet / talk to them.

2. It's too far to travel for face to face convo's.

3. They have to give you a phone number and they don't know you well enough for that yet.

4. There is an added cost to phone calls and they may not be prepared to invest in that yet.

5. Their wife / partner etc will get suspicious about phone calls, but is used to them being on the computer all the time.

If you mean 1 on 1 instant messaging as opposed to e-mail exchanges, there are still a few reasons (again, some fair, some not):

1. If you have an e-mail address that can use MSN messenger or some similar IM system, those IM systems often have more features than the IM system on here, and the other person may prefer that.

2. They want your e-mail address to add to spam mailing lists, which they don't get if you just chat in here.

3. They possibly think there is less monitoring on MSN etc than on here is they are about to be a scammer or crude.

4. It may be their way of checking out if you are "real" and not just a fake profile on here.

I mean sending more emails to each other and yes i too have had the $200 a month phone bills from talking over the phone.I get told so much garbage it made me sick so i understand why people don't want to talk over the phone until they get to know someone better. I usually meet them halfway when meeting and i tend not to go too far from home as i am a little cautious about meeting people and sadly from previous experience and huge financial costs it would be easier if he lived closer rather than further away.I certainly know about the married ones too as well as some who think because you are a single mom you want all of the things listed below -
1. You want a bank account ( Have my own nice tidy one )
2. Parent for your child ( Have that too)
3. Want everything they have ( Am extremely spoilt, thanks to MOII and a paycheck to pay for it of course)
4. Been ripped off before and don't want to again ( Been there too many times myself and you are not the only one.I could have bought a house with the money i have spent on relationships,sadly i rent instead)
5. Want more children(sadly it will never happen and after 15 years of trying to explain it will never happen again, i just learnt to walk away while trying to hide my tears)

I know what it is like to be cautious and careful and no i don't need any of the above as i provide it myself.I don't need a fancy home,new car nor millions of dollars as i believe i am already rich as i have a home,car,income,job,child,luxuries and all the other little things we take for granted.I am grateful each day for what we have and i try to help others as best as i can and i am happy with that.

No-one is perfect and i have learnt to accept others the best i can with the way they are.I am not religious just spiritual and believe you don't need to spend money on self help books, just think POSITIVE!

Thank you again for your responses and i hope you a Have A Great Day!