Originally Posted by SCORPIOWOMAN

To put it bluntly..
He goes to bed and has one hell of a time jerking while he is asking you all the sexual questions.. Jesus, girl, Think...

The thing is, that we got on well, had good everyday conversations etc. and then that. It's not like I was sitting there 'Listening' to him 'jerk-off'. It was the 'Questions' themselves and the kind of discussions he wanted to have that made he think he was.

Sexidiva,
Thanks for your thoughts & support

Originally Posted by Cutebutbossy

Instinct chikgrl, we women have it for a reason and it is always right. As the others have said he is USING you for his own gratification, keeping you interested during the day being nice and polite so he can get his rocks off in the evening when he is in bed. Perhaps you could tell him next time he wants to call u while in bed he is to deposit a sum of money into a bank account for you to pay for your services because he is treating you like a phone sex partner. Better still tell him you are sending him a bill for all the other calls and I bet he won't call call again

Thanks Cuteb, Good and funny advice! Thanks, I bet you're right too, hit em in the back pocket hey! Thanks.

Originally Posted by cottendaisy

Well i understand what your saying have had the same thing happen to me.

Its like they are a Cybil if you get what i mean .
The charm and all is how they fish you in.
And yes do trust that gut feeling .
You have already doubts about this .
So whats thats telling you.
Listen to your inner soul move on you can do better.
Just my thoughts.

Thanks Cottondaisy, I guess I was just happy to think that I'd found someone I thought was a possible friend/partner. All fool me hey? This guy is 43,and from what I can gather, a good Dad also. I guess I was nieve in thinking that he would be 'Grown Up' enough to treat me with respect, but I was missled and dissapointed instead. Really makes me wonder about this 'Online Dating' thing, but also hard for single Mums like me who don't get out much to meet people. Thanks for your support, I'll keep positive!

Originally Posted by SCORPIOWOMAN

Ladies your Thoughts are corect..

I have been on this website and others, and all I ever encountered was some men who are really not interested in anything but to get their rocks off be it by email, chatting, etc...

And just read some profiles..All wanting Fun, Light Encounters, No Comitements... And let us not forget the hordes who are married and want discreet affairs...

More chances meeting that special soul at the bus stop or your local laundry mat...

That is why I am here for friendship, nothing more nothing less...

I know what you mean about having your own 'Reading between the lines' kind of insight when looking online for potential friends,partners etc. and I too look out for those exact same things and to be careful. I'm 37, and consider myself a good 'Reader' of people, but as this recent experience has taught me, maybe not as good as I thought I was! And I'm starting to agree with you that maybe it is better odds to meet someone at a bus stop, etc. Thank you for your insight, support, and feedback, it does help, and is appreciated.

Originally Posted by Poochi

You must explain here what is weird? Especially when you have developed some liking for this guy and are making yourself available for...

It's better to ask his expectations from you and explain to him what you desire. Human nature is a bit weird...sometimes you like something for some reason and at others you may dislike/ disown the same bloody thing...Think

Instincts are also the outcome of brain...in relations it's the heart and the head that should be put at task.

Cheers!

Hi Poochi and thanks for your reply, firstly; What is Weird:- In my opinion as a female, when you meet someone whether it's Online or in person, and you are talking on the phone at night to each other, you don't have to have conversations about sex, preferences of positions etc. There is such a thing as talking, chatting, clicking, and getting to know each other, having a laugh etc. Which as I said, me & this guy did. The fact that he is 43 and I'm 37, I thought was a plus also because I thought we would both be mature enough to be on the same wave length.
But, the weird thing came into it when; he would go to bed and ask & want to discuss all kinds of my sexual preferences etc. Remember, this is a guy I haven't met, haven't gone out with, and only know by Online chats, texting, and over the phone.
Yes, I 'Made myself available' to start a friendship and possibly a relationship with him, as did he, and yes, I liked him and was told likewise.
As for asking him what his expectations are; why would I? And why should I? I don't really understand why you think this is important. Refer to what I have already mentioned; this was supposed to be a 'New' friendship and possible relationship.
Your comment of 'Hunman Nature is weird', has nothing to do with what and why I posted this thread. I think we all know that human nature can present us with questions we find hard to answer, but I was looking for some 'Advice' from the Forum to help me in my path right now.
Instincts to me, come from the heart not the brain, but life makes us choose whether to think from the heart or the head, that's the difference! Thanks for your reply.

Well said chikky

Originally Posted by sophisticatedone

chikgrl I would rather trust a women's instinct than a man's reason..I might send a wrong signal of generalizing but i was never wrong with my instincts.

It is you who is really in contact with this guy, so you know if you are being exploited which made you doubted his true intentions with you.

Hi sophisticatedone, Well, yes it is me that has been in contact with him, but as I have been 'Out of the Scene for a while' just wanted to ask for some advice from others. The problem for me is that I don't know what his true intentions are now. I like your fist statement of 'Trusting a women's instinct than a man's reason' But at the same time, would like to have the opportunity and hope that I/we (my daughter & I) can meet someone that we can put our trust & love into and have it returned. If not from him, maybe someone else. Thanks for your wisdom.

Mature, ha, I met some Chaps over age 67 and all they ever wanted was to know..What My sexual Prefrences were... As if I am going to tell them, thus engaging in long idiot chatting while they are doing.. you know what...

Remember AGE is no barrier to some fools, and trust me some are here just for that. These types have NO interest in anything but getting their proverbial rocks off...


If they are after sex chat.. I say PAY FOR IT...
I repeat again...NO MONEY NO HONEY...

chikgrl.
I guess we are a little wiser as we have all been there.
Call it we have been around for a while i guess.
When you can help a fellow out we do.
Its true about being lonely,they tell us want we want to hear.
Because we crave for affection we get hooked in hook line and sinker.
You are very normal and now more clever.
You have just made a big step for your self.
There are nice guys out there.
But god its hard to find them.
O wish you all the best and dont give up.
Otherwise we wont have you here with us good ones.
Hugs.