Instinct what is it, I could not but giggle when i read many posts where people where saying follow your instincts that a woman instincts is always right (or almost). Can I ask a question to all those person who said that? if this is true how come the vast majority of us men and women make so many wrong decision in our life, I am sure that all of you who are here have gone out or had relation got married and had children with someone we thought was the right person only to find out later how wrong we were.

So if our instinct was so good how come so many people are unhappy in their life and work. I think that our instinct is only as good as our experience of life, don't we say that children learn through trials and errors I think we do to we never stop learning through trials and error so if you get burned by a certain individuals or situation next time you should know better ( most do some are thickheaded and never learn).

All that to say I do not believe in instinct but knowledge of life situation that makes us have better judgement and make better life decisions.

Hi Alzeimer

Fascinating and valid statement all round......

I believe anyone having instincts is a momentary feeling. One that is initially felt, on the spur of the moment.
I guess humans in general use this phrase, as they do tend to rely on that "gut feeling" for many purposes. Perhaps this is a common human mistake, to link this feeling as being our "be all and end all" intuition.
I do not know of anyone in particular that has suggested they married purely from an 'instinct' they felt.
It maybe suggested during a particular time, one had an instinct about another. Not necessarily based their future marriage or lives, on having an instinct.
Perhaps I am wrong, there maybe many that have judged their whole lives on instinct. In which I sincerely hope with past experience, they have learned the difference between surrendering to instinct and using good ol' common sense!


Katz

we all get the chance to make our own pathways be it the right move or wrong every time we make a choice we decide on what we beleave to be right at that moment of time sometimes we remember the hurt and pain and try not to make the same mistake but as were only human we do take our chances every tome we choose to do what ever every minunte of the day every day of our lifes good job we are capable of doing that sometimes its not so easy to do what you want
due to otherthings but most dessitions are our doing

Originally Posted by Alzeimer

Instinct what is it, I could not but giggle when i read many posts where people where saying follow your instincts that a woman instincts is always right (or almost). Can I ask a question to all those person who said that? if this is true how come the vast majority of us men and women make so many wrong decision in our life, I am sure that all of you who are here have gone out or had relation got married and had children with someone we thought was the right person only to find out later how wrong we were.

So if our instinct was so good how come so many people are unhappy in their life and work. I think that our instinct is only as good as our experience of life, don't we say that children learn through trials and errors I think we do to we never stop learning through trials and error so if you get burned by a certain individuals or situation next time you should know better ( most do some are thickheaded and never learn).

All that to say I do not believe in instinct but knowledge of life situation that makes us have better judgement and make better life decisions.

G’day Al

I believe everybody has instincts it's just that we don't need to use them as much anymore. Have you ever been sitting somewhere and all of a sudden you look up for no reason and find someone looking at you? Or in a vehicle and you have turned your head just in time to see a collision avoided? or walked into some place and felt that it wasn't the right place for you and walkeed straight out again? These are examples of people’s instincts at work. Weather it is a conscious or subconscious thing is another matter.
I personally have excellent instincts when it comes to sensing people’s moods or dangerous people or places, maybe that's due in part to my upbringing or maybe its self preservation, who knows! I just know at certain times in my life i have relied on my instincts and have been proven right as many times as i have been proven wrong in other situations.
I don't believe that Judgement and instincts is the same thing as a judgement is a conscious decision where as instincts are more a feeling or a sense of some awareness. As for the choices we make that turn out to be wrong; how many people do you know that Trust & follow their instincts, most i know base their decisions on emotion or logical fact and ignore their instincts all together, I personally trust my instincts implicitly - But that's just me! Carry on.

Originally Posted by Katz Eyez

Hi Alzeimer

Fascinating and valid statement all round......

I believe anyone having instincts is a momentary feeling. One that is initially felt, on the spur of the moment.
I guess humans in general use this phrase, as they do tend to rely on that "gut feeling" for many purposes. Perhaps this is a common human mistake, to link this feeling as being our "be all and end all" intuition.
I do not know of anyone in particular that has suggested they married purely from an 'instinct' they felt.
It maybe suggested during a particular time, one had an instinct about another. Not necessarily based their future marriage or lives, on having an instinct.
Perhaps I am wrong, there maybe many that have judged their whole lives on instinct. In which I sincerely hope with past experience, they have learned the difference between surrendering to instinct and using good ol' common sense!


Katz

Interesting ... "It maybe suggested during a particular time, one had an instinct about another."

This i have experienced first hand.

I was doing some IT work for a company and had to travel to Melbourne to attend a 2 week training course, at the course there was a lass from Ireland named Sheila Teresa Monica Casey.

The moment we laid eyes on each other there was an immediate instinctual connection between us that was very powerful, even though we were in the truest sense "Total Strangers" she admitted to me that she had never in her life met a person that effected her the way i had simply by being there, i also knew instinctively that this person standing before me was a person that i could grow old with, trust completely and feel totally secure and comfortable with, the effects were immediate and as i mentioned very powerful.

It was not any kind of infatuation or nor was it based on looks, personality or any one thing we could think of, it was purely instinctive. It was an instant bond between us that we instinctively knew would have been an incredible base on which to build a relationship.

If i think back i can still see her face, i can smell her in the air, i can see her eyes curious and challenging, i still smile at her accent and the lilt in her voice, i can still feel the passion of her convictions, and the tenderness in her touch, her laugh was the most wonderful sound i have ever heard.

We both realised that although we felt as we did, that there were too many complications (on both sides) for us to ever "Be", but to this day i know! Not think; Know, deep down inside that this was one person i could have been truly happy with.

This all happened about 15 Yrs ago, and although we could never "Be" i still feel very much richer for the experience.