My beloved friend, whom I consider more than 'just friend' and who used to enjoy my company , warned me that I shouldnt be looking at a long term relationship with her because she is not 'ready' for it .She even mentioned that there's nothing wrong with me , but she would not tolerate any kind of reference to 'love'. I coudnt contain my feelings and sent her a love greeting... and now she;s very angry.. deleted my phone no from her cell, not accepting my messages and doesnt want to even see my email... what should I do?

Hi Dazzler Dude

You should read very carefully what you have just written above, its states clearly why your friend warned you about "not tolerating any kind of reference to love".
Obviously this friendship started off with each of you knowing where things stand and you have breached the trust, confidence, honesty, promises and so forth.
By deleting all contact from you, clearly means just that..........NO CONTACT!

I think you are hoping you'll get a second chance, but in reality you have been told quite emphatically what she wanted out of the friendship, and what she did NOT want. You broke the rule and IF she decides to come back to you for FRIENDSHIP ONLY, then be grateful she's reconsidered the fact and honour what she says!!!


Katz

I agree with Katz Eyes answer..

If someone does not want us, we should refrain from Chasing them and trying to Force our attentions on them..

Keep the friendship, and look for Soul mate elsewhere...

There is Nothiong more hurtful if we are chasing love and it is Not reciprocated...

The world is Huge, do not waste any more time.. Find someone else To LOVE that is...

well there is clearly a breach of contract here. Terms of contract stipulated no talk about love. Yet a love greeting resulted in the breach. What do we do. As a legl egl my counsel is go and take the defence of misrepresentation. The Love greeting was not supposed to mean what she thought it to be and you would adhere and had adhered to the terms of contract. Even then if the breach continues. I agree with Mme scorps get going and move ahead. In any case i dont see what is the consideration involved in the contract you have with her- cheers and regards.

Dude you blew it mate, it is obvious you were reading more into the friendship than she was and when she politly told you what she wanted you went into a state of panic and did the dumbest thing you could.

I sincerely hope this is just a case of being young & dumb, if it is "Suck it up" and move on, if it isn't then let sleeping dogs lye and as stated by other members if she wants your friendship then let her approach you, and be thakfull for what it is, otherwise you will be stalking her and that aint good my friend.

Cheers

Originally Posted by Indiana J

In any case i dont see what is the consideration involved in the contract you have with her- cheers and regards.

Huh ???

Originally Posted by Dazzler Dude

My beloved friend, whom I consider more than 'just friend' and who used to enjoy my company , warned me that I shouldnt be looking at a long term relationship with her because she is not 'ready' for it .She even mentioned that there's nothing wrong with me , but she would not tolerate any kind of reference to 'love'. I coudnt contain my feelings and sent her a love greeting... and now she;s very angry.. deleted my phone no from her cell, not accepting my messages and doesnt want to even see my email... what should I do?

Dear friend...there are a lot of animal characteristics in human beings. Well, I am not saying this was some animal behaviour from her or your side...but just give the below mentioned 'content' a little thought.

There are mainly five type of humans on this planet
1. Teddy bear - you say anything to them...they keep smiling at you and accept whatever is in store.
2. Tortoise - the moment they find trouble from your end...they will hide under the hood
3. Sharks - whatever you may intend...their intentions will always be opposite (this is the mojority of people around us)
4. Fox - very clever at anything they do...wait for the right time and sneak and take their benefit
5. Owl - carefully gauge when to attack but keep themselves safe on a tall tree.

Now you may decide your type and her type and see what matches...and try to find a solution if any.

However a few more words for you here...

When you love something...
set it free...
if it comes to you...it is yours..
otherwise...it never was...
So why worry for something which was never yours?

Cheers! I hope i did not bug you further...excuse me if I did

Originally Posted by IRideFree

Huh ???

yep she has no consideration for him and he has none for her sensitivities and emotions. And I dont see what is in this agreed relationship. The question itself is futile right from the begining

We do not have all the facts but here is my point of view.

1- Should he have respected her wish:

Yes if he had only a curious attraction towards her and her friendship was more important.

Yes if all he wanted is to have a run in the sac with her.


2- Should he have told her is feeling:

Yes if his love for her was to much that him keeping it silent was more hurtful than her rejecting him.

Yes if he was willing to risk their friendship and live with her decision.


It is nice and of good manner to think of others feeling but sometimes we have to think about ourselves first.

Originally Posted by Dazzler Dude

My beloved friend, whom I consider more than 'just friend' and who used to enjoy my company , warned me that I shouldnt be looking at a long term relationship with her because she is not 'ready' for it .She even mentioned that there's nothing wrong with me , but she would not tolerate any kind of reference to 'love'. I coudnt contain my feelings and sent her a love greeting... and now she;s very angry.. deleted my phone no from her cell, not accepting my messages and doesnt want to even see my email... what should I do?

semantics of a hopeless case. (my beloved friend)so right from the begining its assumed love. (Whom I consider more than 'just friend')what is this "more part" in his mind.(and who used to enjoy my company , warned me) a person who enjoys ur company warning u. hmmmmmmm. (that I shouldnt be looking at a long term relationship with her because she is not 'ready' for it) and she will never be and has no expectations on future except having good time for herself.(that I shouldnt be looking at a long term relationship with her because she is not 'ready' for it) be a spender guy no luv or shmuck.(I coudnt contain my feelings and sent her a love greeting... and now she;s very angry..) he cudnt spend r waste his time anymore as he was predetermined right from the begining what 2 have from her and made his move albeit in a polite way by sendin a greeting. ( and now she;s very angry.. deleted my phone no from her cell, not accepting my messages and doesnt want to even see my email...) all the time she was tellin him she had other commitments and he wouldnt listen bcoz he was not into love but to have a go at her all the while trying to convince her to comply under the pretense of romance or luv or whatever it is and she is now scared that he may upset the applecart or become a stalker or nuisance and is now saving herself pretending that he is a stranger. (what should I do?) if u are genuine go to her and tell her u truly love her and demand that she put an end to the farce or otherwise stop whining and washing ur dirty linen in public and get going. Matters of heart shud remain in heart where they come out as smiles r tears. shud be prepared for either of them. otherwise feelings have no meanings.Either way you knew it right from the begining that u were steppin into hot water and you may get burned. Why regrets now.- with regards