This was the question posed on the 'news' article at:
http://au.lifestyle.yahoo.com/b/mari...-porn-adultery
A newly married woman whose husband spent hours on the computer and not with her says, "I felt if he wasn't sleeping with me and he was getting his kicks elsewhere, absolutely it was adultery."

Here is an excerpt:
It's an interesting proposition, not least in the light of Australians' increasing use of pornography. Up to 40 per cent of adults use X-rated material, says Fiona Patten, CEO of the Eros Association, adding that Australians spend about $300 million a year on pornographic DVDs. If your partner is engaging in furtive sexual behaviour, and paying to watch other women engage in sexual activity, are they straying into adulterous territory?

At first glance, porn and adultery seem very different. The Macquarie Dictionary defines pornography as being "designed to excite sexual desire" and adultery as "sexual intercourse between a married person and any other person than the lawful spouse". There seems to be a physical demarcation between the two. But in an essay in US magazine The Atlantic last October, writer Ross Douthat gave the issue a different spin. "If it's cheating on your wife to watch while another woman performs sexually in front of you, then why isn't it cheating while the same sort of spectacle unfolds on your laptop or TV?"

And adultery is more complicated than just a physical act, says spokesperson for Women's Forum Australia, Melinda Tankard Reist. Emotional adultery - where a partner secretly shares intimate conversations with someone outside the relationship, for example - is often cited as a cause of relationship breakdown, even though it may not involve a physical transgression. "The feedback I get from women in this situation is that they feel the compulsive use of porn is akin to adultery," confirms Tankard Reist. "They do feel cheated on, and they speak about an emotional betrayal."

So what do forum readers think?

To Moi, big fat YES..

Reason.. I am Extremely Jealous arachnid, and I like being the only one in my partners affections..

I really Do Not enjoy competing with some airbrushed broad in some cretinous glossy magazine or with the broads online..

Besides it actually demeans women.. Just my humble opinion OK..

As for the rest.. Enjoy Porning.. Lmao..

What about imagination?
Is that cheating too?

Originally Posted by Kamilla

This was the question posed on the 'news' article at:
http://au.lifestyle.yahoo.com/b/mari...-porn-adultery
A newly married woman whose husband spent hours on the computer and not with her says, "I felt if he wasn't sleeping with me and he was getting his kicks elsewhere, absolutely it was adultery."

Here is an excerpt:
It's an interesting proposition, not least in the light of Australians' increasing use of pornography. Up to 40 per cent of adults use X-rated material, says Fiona Patten, CEO of the Eros Association, adding that Australians spend about $300 million a year on pornographic DVDs. If your partner is engaging in furtive sexual behaviour, and paying to watch other women engage in sexual activity, are they straying into adulterous territory?

At first glance, porn and adultery seem very different. The Macquarie Dictionary defines pornography as being "designed to excite sexual desire" and adultery as "sexual intercourse between a married person and any other person than the lawful spouse". There seems to be a physical demarcation between the two. But in an essay in US magazine The Atlantic last October, writer Ross Douthat gave the issue a different spin. "If it's cheating on your wife to watch while another woman performs sexually in front of you, then why isn't it cheating while the same sort of spectacle unfolds on your laptop or TV?"

And adultery is more complicated than just a physical act, says spokesperson for Women's Forum Australia, Melinda Tankard Reist. Emotional adultery - where a partner secretly shares intimate conversations with someone outside the relationship, for example - is often cited as a cause of relationship breakdown, even though it may not involve a physical transgression. "The feedback I get from women in this situation is that they feel the compulsive use of porn is akin to adultery," confirms Tankard Reist. "They do feel cheated on, and they speak about an emotional betrayal."

So what do forum readers think?

Originally Posted by GM59

What about imagination?
Is that cheating too?

GM, That is a question you need to answer for yourself.

In my opinion, anything of a sexual nature that engages one party to the exclusion of the other and causes a feeling of separation between a 'married' couple is 'adultery'.

Now as to 'marriage' and what it means to different people...
Well that is an entirely different topic that deserves a thread to itself...
What do other members think?