Originally Posted by Alzeimer

Sadly but most (not all) women are attracted by the macho sweet talker type, they might complain about them but they are the ones that stick out in a crowd, the ones you hear the most,the one thats talks the loudest they are a challenge to the mother side of a woman thinking that they can change him to the image they have of how a man should be, this way they can proudly say that they succeeded in molding him from macho to a decent type instead of going directly to the type of man who are already decent (not a challenge).

Some learn over the years but to many keep on going back to the wrong type for them and so will keep on complaining.

And ladies if a guy is not romantic unless for a reason than he is not the romantic type but the oh! today birthday must do something nice type, romance is for everyday and any reason and because you want to be, not because it is whats your suppose to do.

Just my humble opinion.

I think women live and learn alz, i certainly have lol. how many women profiles do you see now that says they would like to meet an honest caring man who is not afraid to show his feelings

Originally Posted by lukehear

I wasn't talking about the whole male species was trying to get over my point about these unsupecting women at home are looking after the kids, while the husbands are on these date sites, saying they are looking for no strings sex because the spark has gone out of there marriage!!!

The keyword being unsuspecting...ignorance is bliss
I think its ok for the man to do that, he probably needs a break from the kids, and from waking up to the same face after many years, of course the spark has gone out,,,got to get out have some fun get laid get drunk let your hair down etc, then at the end of the day when they are recharged theres spice and fun added back into the relationship and the marriage is good again.
But youve got to do it behind their backs otherwise it wont work and the woman will probably dump the man when she finds out...

Im speaking on behalf of married men, im not married anymore
(i got caught)
Its a Learning curve lol

Originally Posted by onetoone

The keyword being unsuspecting...ignorance is bliss
I think its ok for the man to do that, he probably needs a break from the kids, and from waking up to the same face after many years, of course the spark has gone out,,,got to get out have some fun get laid get drunk let your hair down etc, then at the end of the day when they are recharged theres spice and fun added back into the relationship and the marriage is good again.
But youve got to do it behind their backs otherwise it wont work and the woman will probably dump the man when she finds out...

Im speaking on behalf of married men, im not married anymore
(i got caught)
Its a Learning curve lol

What you're talking about is deceit, pure and simple, which means no respect for, or trust in, your partner. Would you then expect them to be honest and also respect and trust you?

Is it equally acceptable, in your opinion, for the woman to go out for a quick **** to let her hair down a bit and recharge so she feels there is spice and fun added back into the relationship?

Would you be so accepting if it was your wife/girlfriend going out and getting laid behind your back?

It never ceases to amaze me how so many people lie and cheat and seem to think it is "normal" to be deceitful and untrustworthy - and so many of them are so hypocritical with it: quite willing to screw around on their partners but gods forfend that their partners should screw around on them.

Always give what you expect in return. You want fidelity? Be faithful. You want honesty? Be honest. You want respect? Respect others. Can't handle that? Don't expect it in return.

My partners and I are polyamorous and in an open poly relationship, which means any of us is able to find other partners. That is the agreement we have come to between us through open and honest communication. No mistrust, no deceit, and no hurting. Yes, the variety can "spice things up" - but it's much better knowing that no one is being mistrusted or disrespected.

If I met a woman I was interested in forming a relationship with and she was likewise interested in me, then we could get together.

In order for things to have gotten far enough for us to be deciding to start a relationship, a number of things will have already happened: She will be aware that I am married and in a polyamorous triad. She will have met my wife and our partner and will be aware that they are fine with the relationship. She would be amenable to a polyamorous relationship and aware that if she wanted other partners, she is most welcome to have them - if she has not already got partners.

There would be no deceit, no hypocrisy, no disrespect.

You don't have to "do it behind their backs" - it works quite fine when there is trust and honesty.

Originally Posted by SCORPIOWOMAN

My friend just joined a dating site...

She said all she gets is Guys wanting Sex and Sex Chatting etc..

Her email is full of crap from men just wanting relationships with NO Strings..

Ok, I understand that.. But in all sincerety how many women are actually going to give them No Strings Sex talk or Otherwise...

Saw a survey on a website and it said NUMBER One on male list when chatting is SEX...

Nothing wrong with sex, but, honestly do you guys really think us women are soooo interested of getting our rocks off through sex talk be it on IM, email etc...

And I am sorry to say these requests are mostly from Married Men...

Just my opinion ok..

I was talking to a friend the other night he said he has joined a dating site for married women and has met quite alot since Christmas for no strings sex.
I have had my say about married men who are looking for no strings sex ... Just to say there are equally as many married women who are doing this.

reading your forum so far yes its not nice ive been on the receaving end a few times but there are ladies out there who like that attention as well so its very hard
for us who prefure not to be thought of in that way
and the excuss the wife does not understand my wife has lost intreast in sex
if they said to their wifes or husbands which ever way it is the same as the chat lines used on us they would not have a relationship probleam they could spice up their marrage instead