I'm curious about the mindset single parents are in while looking to get into or starting a relationship.

Do you look for someone who primarily can be a mother/father for your child?
Do you prefer to put yourself first?
Do you be up front about having a child?

Just general things like that. I've had a couple of bad experiences with single mothers who are only looking for a father for their kid first and themselves second and it's pretty much put me off dating single parents. Consider this a way of me getting rid of that and maybe dating a single mother.

Originally Posted by lavithan

I'm curious about the mindset single parents are in while looking to get into or starting a relationship.

Do you look for someone who primarily can be a mother/father for your child?
Do you prefer to put yourself first?
Do you be up front about having a child?

Just general things like that. I've had a couple of bad experiences with single mothers who are only looking for a father for their kid first and themselves second and it's pretty much put me off dating single parents. Consider this a way of me getting rid of that and maybe dating a single mother.

Hi there,
When I look for a partner I look for someone who is child friendly first and foremost and then I make sure that we are compatible. There is no point dating someone or getting into a relationship with someone unless they appreciate your child, if they are prepared to take on the father role that is a bonus, but no point being with someone who cant accept all of you and yours. I have been a single mum since my daughter was concieved however the first partner I had after my daughter was born was very supportive of her and helping me with her and that was great. As for admitting whether or not I have children, ALWAYS, she is the biggest part of my life and always will be. Anyway thats my input, Meggs

Originally Posted by lavithan

I'm curious about the mindset single parents are in while looking to get into or starting a relationship.

Do you look for someone who primarily can be a mother/father for your child?
Do you prefer to put yourself first?
Do you be up front about having a child?

Just general things like that. I've had a couple of bad experiences with single mothers who are only looking for a father for their kid first and themselves second and it's pretty much put me off dating single parents. Consider this a way of me getting rid of that and maybe dating a single mother.

1/ I never have and never will look for someone to be a father figure to my kids,They have a father even if he is a loser.

2/ I put my kids first always have and always will everything and everyone else comes in 2nd.

3/ I make no secret of the fact I have 3 children as my profile states.

If you are willing to date a person then you have to bge willing to take on the whole package and that means children also. Same goes for me, I would never try and be a mother to someone elses kids nor would I treat them any differently to my own. Just because you've had a couple of bad experiences with single mums doesn't make us all the same I think perhaps it's to do with maturity (not age) A parent is always a parent first and foremost.

JMHO..... Tox.

Originally Posted by lavithan

I'm curious about the mindset single parents are in while looking to get into or starting a relationship.

Do you look for someone who primarily can be a mother/father for your child?
Do you prefer to put yourself first?
Do you be up front about having a child?

Just general things like that. I've had a couple of bad experiences with single mothers who are only looking for a father for their kid first and themselves second and it's pretty much put me off dating single parents. Consider this a way of me getting rid of that and maybe dating a single mother.

Speaking for myself, The thing i would be looking for in any partner, is someone who will treat me with dignity and respect, love me for who i am and then hopefully the rest will fall into place. Also anyone i would consider dating would know i have children but would not be getting the chance to meet them until i was sure the person i was seeing was honest & trustworthy, for the childrens safety and welfare. The other thing to remember is that single parents come as package and if your not really into kids you would be doing yourself and the single parent a big favour by not getting involved in the first place.