how do you cope being a single mother of two kids both under the age of 5 and the father walks out of their than later that week you see him at the pub with his tounge down some elses throat

Without knowing what led up to him leaving, or who did what to whom, that has got to be devastating.

Hope your kids were being well looked after when you were both at the pub. It's going to be pretty devastating on them too if the adults can't cope.

my two littles ones where at my parents place when it all happened the reason he left was because i had enough of being used as his boxing bag every day of the week and than i said i was going to ring the police thats when he decided to go

Originally Posted by babyd23

how do you cope being a single mother of two kids both under the age of 5 and the father walks out of their than later that week you see him at the pub with his tounge down some elses throat

Being alone to raise our kids is indeed a very difficult. We tend to be apprehensive if we can provide our kids the life they deserve. But it is a reality you have to face. The fact that your husband walked out on you and your kids to fool around means that you cant rely on him anymore and life has to go on with only you raising them.

At a very young age, your kids needs all the assurance they can get from you. Always let them know that everything is going to be OK. Eventhough that you are not really sure on whats going to happen in the near future, by just hearing these assurance from you will make them feel secure and safe.

It will be an advantage if you have a family that is very supportive of you. And a stable job to singlehandedly raise your family. This is a time where your life will turn to a new direction. Take the time to think about the things that are going well for you. By being optimistic about the future, despite the crisis that you are facing can empower you to move ahead and provide your children with a tangible example of the coping strategies you want them to adopt.

Most of all, spend quality time with your kids..coz you are the only parent they've got at this time. Goodluck!

Originally Posted by babyd23

my two littles ones where at my parents place when it all happened the reason he left was because i had enough of being used as his boxing bag every day of the week and than i said i was going to ring the police thats when he decided to go

Well if you are getting that abuse, ringing the police is the right thing.

one day at a time is the best way