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Hi My name is Monique and I am a single parent of 1 little girl. Her father walked out when she was one so we have been by ourselves for 2 years now. I have dated but have not found minster right. The way I look at it is. There is a mister right out for all of us. Just need to sit back and he will come. No rush. As a single parent I find that we become more picky with our choices of men/women more because it's not one heart that can be broken but 2 or 3 etc....
Be patient he will come

Hi, I've been a single parent for over 3 years. It destroys me knowing that my son will ask me why his mother and I are not together when he gets older. For the way I have gotten taught when I was younger by my parents, if I have a child by the woman that I truly love that is the woman that I bond my heart with (marriage), well that did not happen as it suppose to. My family was not to happy that my sons mother and I did not get married. Deep down in my heart I thought I was with the woman that I truly wanted to be with for the rest of my life. We went through so much together, bad and good, hopefully one day that I will find that special someone that will be a part of my life and my son. Now til this day I am single parent with a little boy that is my pride and joy, and I will protect from harms way no matter what it is. Now and forever I am scared being a single parent.

some men dont like the hassle of putting up with kids but i go into a relationship knowing its a package deal

ive been a single parent for 13yrs and i think its just as dificult for men as it is for women,

Hi there,My name is Deborah,my ex left me 2 weeks before xmas last year.We had been together for 10 years also.I have 6 children 3 boys and 3 girls.I find that unless I am asked I do not tell people first off the number of kids that I have.This is for a number of reasons Firstly to protect my kids,there are some fellas out there who see single women with kids as targets,Secondly to try to get at least some contact in!At least some of my personality might come across!It all sounds great and positive...eventually Mr Right will come along when you dont expect him.I think that the reality is that most guys dont want to get involved with a woman with alot of kids (which I guess is fair enough)I am the same as you,my kids have a father and this is also what I tell people,I am not looking for a daddy for my kids I am looking for someone for ME.I understand that guys may have concerns,but they need to remember we are doing it on our own to begin with,and we are not out to get married again next week!Just to get to know someone slowly and have some fun.I hope you have lots of luck finding a decent ,caring,and understanding partner.I have come to realize that I can do it all on my own(albeit a little lonely)but I will keep on lookin!

Originally Posted by tahlia

Hi, Im also a single Mum and I also wonder if I am going to spend the rest of my life by myself. I only have 2 children. I honestly think if you meet the right person and he really falls in love with you, he is going to love your children as they are part of you. I hope so ayway.

Good luck

I couldn't agree more. There are men like myself who have never been blessed with a child. I love kids. My nieces,and nephews can attest to this.
I've always wanted to be a father. Now I just hope one day to be a "father figure."

Originally Posted by Rongomaiwahine

Just recently i became a single parent with 5 kids...Been married for at least 10yrs & im wondering if im going be single for the rest....Im really just wanting to chat with people& not looking for a "DADDY" for my kids(they already have one).Im just looking for company to share thoughts ,experiance's,& fears wiith parents in the same/similar situation..Are people scared of people like me & why?

hi mindy,i to is a single parent,been on my own since 1997 with 2 kids they r now 15 and 12,and a handful,i dont get any help from friends or family,i just cope to my own ability,i do live out in the sticks away from people,and people ask me why i live so far away,i love nature and love my own company,i enjoy the freedom of being on my own,i must admit i do get a bit lonely,though my kids keep me company very much so,they come first,i love life and it keeps me on my toes,life is how u make it,u have 2 believe in yourself,after all u r who u r,men often ask me why have i been on my own 4 so long,my answer is,i choose to be on my own,love my own company,and love the kids,being on the internet is not a bad thing,it keeps me focused on reality,and can meet good people,i can tell u alot more but i wont, so iam here if u want 2 chat sometime,by and go with the flow.

yes they are scared of us they seem to think we are looking for a replacment when we just want a friend

yes i do think it is just as hard for a man