The hardest thing is picking yourself back up and meeting another special person, after the relationship you thought would be has gone sour. Its alot harder where children are involved you have to take their feelings into account and getting out to meet someone else is just no easy. I have regular contact with my two children and when there not here i feel so alone its almost depressing and the future of meeting someone else just seems too far away. But theres an old saying you cant find love if you go looking for it,
Which i believe in some ways, but know i must get out their otherwise i dont stand a chance. would like to hear from you take care bye.

Originally Posted by adelaidegal7

what a load of rubbish your comment is. If lonely without partner then would be lonely with one. At least if I had a partner I would have someone to go out for dinner with and see movies etc. Yes I have friends to do that with but going with a partner is different. It would also be nice to have someone at home just to watch tv with, to comment on what is being viewed and have a laugh. Unless you have been in the situation that us girls have found ourselves in who are you to comment on what its like if you havent walked in our shoes.

For you yes obviously you need a partner to not feel lonely, but some people dont need a partner to not feel lonely, i have been in the same situation over and over again , many times thats how i came to this conclusion, maybe if we all learned to be happy within ourselves then we would see that a partner in our lives will NOT be the answer to all our problems, It depends on how independant you are

Where do you get off robbbyg???? You dont know me so how dare you say i need a partner to be happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if I needed a partner to be happy like you say, I would be out looking for one and bringing a new man home each week. But I'm not like most men, I have morals and values and set a good example for my child. FYI I'm quite "happy and content" on my own. I'm highly educated, have a secure job, a nice house, am very independant and have lots of lovely friends. So tell me you expert what do I need a man for??? There is nothing a man can do for me that I cant do myself!!!!!!! I dont need a man to be happy and I certainly wouldnt want one like you. It's not hard to see why you have found yourself alone over and over again as you put it. There is so much more I could say but my life is none of our business and I cant be bothered with people like you. If you actually read the other postings properly you would see the point of the whole feeling lonely topic!!!!!

Ok Ok i will go on a date with you , but your paying

This may seem hard to get from a guys point of view but i have split from my ex about 4 weeks ago. I have a wonderful 8 week old son. i may not have him but i do understand that it is hard to find some one that will care for both of you. I have been in relationships where there has been a child involved i have not walked out on that female but i have not taken that role of father to the child. I have helped support that child in many ways but i have not takin on the role of father hood to that child. If you can find some one like that you may be happier. If you are happier by your self well done and congradulations.

Originally Posted by kellso

i can see where you girls are coming from. i have a 2.5 year old daughter, and my ex left me for another guy. from my point of the stick, i would rather find a girl who has a child already, that way we both understand the commitments to the ex and share care arrangements. single girls get jealous when i talk to my ex about our daughter, and that seems immature i think.
i wish you all the best for the rest of your life, and i'm sure good things come to those who wait.

i know what you mean i also dont think id date someone who dosen't already have a child/childen.

Hi all.....tommy here, i just felt i had to comment on this article.
Well i'm a bloke who works hard and have two beautiful kids. Came home one evening to find my partner had left me with the kids and ran off with another man. I'm an honest hard working decent person, attractive enough person and caring and romantic...wasn't enough apparently, but my point is when i talk to girls and they find out i have kids thats the end of the conversation. My partner eventually can back for the kids when she settled down with her new partner but people automatically think that the fact i have kids i must be jack the lad, love em and leave them.
Like everyone i'd love to meet someone, especially someone around my age or a little younger within reason but when i mention kids thats that.
I hope ye all find what your looking for as a believe everyone deserves to be happy and just reminding u not all guys are like the experiences you've had.
Have a good time and all the best...tommy

hi there i was reading ur thread and i know im a male and all but i can relate to what u are saying bcoz thats exactly whats happing to me. but all i can say is keep ur head up high and just worrie bout u and ur two beautifull boys and without a doubt this year will be a good year for u. and if u ever need someone to talk to im hear to listen. but i know u might think that i dont know what im talking bout bcoz im only 20 years old but ive learnt alot from being a solo parent for 2years. but the offer is there even if its ur last resort. thanx

Originally Posted by KazzABabe

Im 26 and have 2 sweet little boys, aged 4 and 2.. I was engaged to there daddy when i was 3 months preg with our youngest son.. We broke up just over 2.5 years.. Being preg and feeling very alone was the hardest and saddest time of my life.. The father still has the boys oftern, about 4 times a week..

My problem is i haven't really had a serious relationship since.. I'd maybe date someone for 2 weeks and thats it!! I feel that noone wants to know me because i have children and this makes me feel so alone, and sad. All i want is a nice caring genuine guy who loves me and my two son's, and respects us and treats us right.. Why is this so hard to find.?? Am i not worthy of love bcoz i have kids? im starting to feel i'll be alone forever and that scares me.. I do have a real bad attitude with men, but would love my attiude to change, but i feel this will only happen if someone actually treated me right.. I dont want to be alone and bitter forever. The type of men who send me emails are like 40 years old.... I would love to know someone around my age.. Im hoping 2007 will be a good year for me and my sweet son's. Fingers crossed

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Hello,wats up..so sad your story,but that life .u must corageous in life .
I HOPE EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT FOR U.MY NAME IS VINCE MURDAY .FROM DUBLIN.STUDYING PHOTOGRAPHY..I AM SEARCHING FOR A SIMPLE FEMALE ANY AGE AS PARTNER.EVERYONE IS WELCOME..

Originally Posted by KazzABabe

Im 26 and have 2 sweet little boys, aged 4 and 2.. I was engaged to there daddy when i was 3 months preg with our youngest son.. We broke up just over 2.5 years.. Being preg and feeling very alone was the hardest and saddest time of my life.. The father still has the boys oftern, about 4 times a week..

My problem is i haven't really had a serious relationship since.. I'd maybe date someone for 2 weeks and thats it!! I feel that noone wants to know me because i have children and this makes me feel so alone, and sad. All i want is a nice caring genuine guy who loves me and my two son's, and respects us and treats us right.. Why is this so hard to find.?? Am i not worthy of love bcoz i have kids? im starting to feel i'll be alone forever and that scares me.. I do have a real bad attitude with men, but would love my attiude to change, but i feel this will only happen if someone actually treated me right.. I dont want to be alone and bitter forever. The type of men who send me emails are like 40 years old.... I would love to know someone around my age.. Im hoping 2007 will be a good year for me and my sweet son's. Fingers crossed

I feel for you and I do hope that you do not write off man because you haven't met a nice one yet, not all man think that a woman with children is a no no. I would gladly take you and you kids out for a date if I wasn't on the other side of the world, Don't be discourage I am sure you will find him when you least expect it.

Good thoughts to you,

Alzeimer