Im 26 and have 2 sweet little boys, aged 4 and 2.. I was engaged to there daddy when i was 3 months preg with our youngest son.. We broke up just over 2.5 years.. Being preg and feeling very alone was the hardest and saddest time of my life.. The father still has the boys oftern, about 4 times a week..

My problem is i haven't really had a serious relationship since.. I'd maybe date someone for 2 weeks and thats it!! I feel that noone wants to know me because i have children and this makes me feel so alone, and sad. All i want is a nice caring genuine guy who loves me and my two son's, and respects us and treats us right.. Why is this so hard to find.?? Am i not worthy of love bcoz i have kids? im starting to feel i'll be alone forever and that scares me.. I do have a real bad attitude with men, but would love my attiude to change, but i feel this will only happen if someone actually treated me right.. I dont want to be alone and bitter forever. The type of men who send me emails are like 40 years old.... I would love to know someone around my age.. Im hoping 2007 will be a good year for me and my sweet son's. Fingers crossed

I know exactly how you feel and related totally to your message. I have a 6 year old. His dad left when he was 6 weeks and hasnt been seen since. I've had one serious relationship since then, but have now been single for 3 years. I've met a few men in that time. I think when the reality of what its like to have a child around sets in they decide they cant hack it and break things off. I'm starting to think I'm never going to meet anyone my age. I to get emails from older guys and I'm just not interested in dating men that are nearly the same age as my parents.

Hi guys

i know what u are both going through, i mean u met the man think all is well
and then they drop the fatel blow 'i am leaving u' my partner was very violent to me when i found out i was pregnant at first we were the most loving couple and he would do anything fo me. But once preganant he changed completly one minute he was fine the next minute in a fool mood. He started drinking heavily and just being a nasty sod.
I realluy thought was my fault anyway this went on until i was 28 weeks pregant and i asked him one day what the problem was and he kicked me in the stomach and said he wanted to get rid of problem.

any how after this i was in hospital for the duration of my pregnancy it emerged that he was seeing a 18 yr old girl and wanted to leave and thats why he had done what he had done. so he left he took the house and left me wit approximatley 2 pounds he sold the tv sterioc etc even the cooker.

After 4 years i have finally got my self together, hey life is hard and lonely when u r on your own but time is a great healer since find PP i have found peopl who really care if i dont show up and all they are after is a good laff
PP has given me a new interest in life that i thought i would have again.

I have rebuilt my life have a fabulous son and a nice house yes at times i am lonely but i would rather be lonely then living the life i was

as for meeting new people many of my friends that i met when i first come on PP have now paired up and r really happy.

Guys give it time these thing dont happen over night but u will find lve when u least expect it ok

I wish u both all the luck in the world and dont worry there is someone out there for all of us we just have met them yet

bonkers

hey miss stunning here totaly get where ur coming from i have 2 sweet kids broke from ex few yrs ago was total tosser. find it really hard to meet someone genuine. but hey hang on in there 2007 is the year for yummmy mummies!!!

alot of guys are jerks like that but there are guys out there. when i talk to women and they tell me that they have kids i look at them as a bonus. i dont run at the first chance i get. for one i love kids and cant wait to have one of my own. it takes a real man to date women with kids. the rest are still little boys waiting to grow up. but thats my opinion. you have 2 cute little boys.

Hi I feel the same as you I have 3 boys 6yrs 3&1/2 & a 2yrs old, My husband and I split 6months ago, after being together for 6yrs, I feel that no one will want to go out with me cause I have Kids, i'm not skinny like most of the guys want, I think that a lot of guys are to scared to take on any one that has kids. My husband had 4 kids to his frist wife ( who he is back with.) I tried really hard to get on with them But they made it pretty hard for me, so I have said that myself that I dont want my kids to be like that, they get on will with everyone so I dont think it will be a problem,

Just Keep your chin up, There is someone out there for you and they just don't know it yet,
your boys look really cute,

i can see where you girls are coming from. i have a 2.5 year old daughter, and my ex left me for another guy. from my point of the stick, i would rather find a girl who has a child already, that way we both understand the commitments to the ex and share care arrangements. single girls get jealous when i talk to my ex about our daughter, and that seems immature i think.
i wish you all the best for the rest of your life, and i'm sure good things come to those who wait.

Girls I can see where you are coming from I have friends with kids who every guy they meet all they do is run. To me that is so immature because a true guy will go out with a girl he likes if she has kids or not. I wish all of you women the best of luck and you all will find the guy you are searching for. All guys are not jerks there are alot of guys out there that would love to go out with a woman that has kids. So just hang in there and things will happen for you. Good Luck to all of you.

i think if your the type to feel alone by not having a partner, you would still feel lonely if you did have one, we shouldnt need partners to not feel lonely

what a load of rubbish your comment is. If lonely without partner then would be lonely with one. At least if I had a partner I would have someone to go out for dinner with and see movies etc. Yes I have friends to do that with but going with a partner is different. It would also be nice to have someone at home just to watch tv with, to comment on what is being viewed and have a laugh. Unless you have been in the situation that us girls have found ourselves in who are you to comment on what its like if you havent walked in our shoes.