shelley58 To find your soulmate, you need to be a person with soul. - Margaret Fuller

Philosophically, I'm an Epicurean. I seek pleasure and avoid pain. I believe in moderation in all things...including moderation. Highly sensitive to my surroundings, I'm tuned into others needs and desires as well as my own. I listen well. To be able to have a connection where you can just look at your partner and laugh together or share an emotion or understanding is what I hope to find. Contrariness is deflating. I like argument that is thought-based. That is, opinions are backed up by reason and example, but not used to humiliate or put down others' opinions. It's okay to agree to disagree. I enjoy discussing and pondering the Universe and traveling around to places and viewing the planet.

One of my greatest joys in life is playing music. I started on guitar and piano at age 8, stayed wth the guitar, and then just before I turned 40 I took up the violin and started playing Irish tunes with the local sessioners and my whole life changed. I learned all about the music, then went to Ireland and learned more. I took up the tenor banjo and mandolin and a good part of my social life is centered around meeting people through the music while traveling. Having a partner to play music with is something I'm looking for. I'm also a golfer. Sometimes those two worlds don't go together...especially in the "folk music" world I frequent. Traveling around playing golf during the day and tunes at night is my idea of a fun time. If it's winter and there's snow, I can substitute skiing for golf.

I like friendly competition. I can have fun shooting pool or dice or playing a game of Scrabble. My brain is full of Irish fiddle tunes and useless trivia, but it keeps all the heavy stuff away.

I'm pretty neat. I don't do clutter well. I am hygiene conscious and seek not to offend or be offended by unpleasant odors.
Since my senses are more hightened than average, I shrink away from loud and unpleasant sounds, including boisterous and cackling voices. I love concerts, but when the music is loud enough to cause ear damage, I need to leave. I always carry earplugs. On the positive side, I am moved and stimulated by pleasant sounds, sights (sunsets/sunrises/moons/mountains, etc). smells, tastes and touch. My match would need to be sensory aware, and if fortunate enough not to be hypersensitive like me, then at least care how I feel.

I have many interests and abilities so conversations on a number of topics are easy. I'm equally at ease at a hippie festival or the country club. As a result, I don't quite fit anywhere, but I'll go most anywhere if there's an adventure to be had and the possibility of love and laughter.

Meet for breakfast before our tee time. Play golf (an excellent way to get to know someone's temperament and personality--brings out the best and worst in a person!)

Afterwards, a drink at the 19th hole, then take a break, clean up, go out to dinner, then take a walk along the beach before the night ends.

It's a full day of getting to know someone, observing them and having time for conversation. You can know at the end of the day if you want to return